You have no idea what that unhappy person is dealing with. And if you had to carry that load -- you have no idea what it would do to you and your attitude (or anything else.)
Instead of saying:
"How are you?" (You're not going to listen to the answer anyway, and if you do, you will more than likely judge it as not worthy or real;)
or "Smile."
Try "Hello." or
"Good morning."
"How are you?" (You're not going to listen to the answer anyway, and if you do, you will more than likely judge it as not worthy or real;)
or "Smile."
Try "Hello." or
"Good morning."
Those last two aren't laden with judgement, or demands for a programmed response from the other person.
If you want to hold the door open for somebody -- do it for yourself, and don't let it slam in the face of the person behind you.
It is rude to expect someone to appreciate a gesture that they didn't need and don't want.
If someone doesn't take you up on your waiting for them to pass, then move on and leave them alone to whatever they are dealing with. You are probably making it worse by intruding on their thoughts and the difficult choice they may have made to just show up and not give up.
(And for Pete's Sake: learn the traffic rules and stop waving on other drivers or pedestrians when you are obligated by law to take the right of way. You may get somebody killed by your improper attempts to be courteous -- when what you are being is presumptuous and rude.)
Got that off my chest.
Anger and sadness are normal emotions that result from living life fully. Disappointment is a major element of a life lived authentically and truthfully.
Get off other people's backs when they are down in the dumps. Let them be. Be available if they should seek you out for company. You will be glad you did when they return the favor some day.
I've got other stuff I've been carrying around since time immemorial, and I may be dumping some of that out here, too. I am done with allowing people to shame me for being decent, thoughtful, kind and the wonderful person God created me to be. I'm a crab because other people criticize me constantly for being myself -- while their ignorant behavior and chatter reveals that they certainly do not have this living thing figured out.
Myself is all I can be. I like the whole of me. And I am sick of being shamed by people who can't hold a candle to the wonderful stuff I have brought into this world -- including my two delightful children, and a positive attitude towards all kinds of work and challenges.
So what if I'm not cheerful every minute? I am dealing with important matters.
Mind your own business.
(Originally posted on Facebook April 27, 2015)
(Originally posted on Facebook April 27, 2015)
